When Security is your top relational need, it's likely very important for you to experience safety and trust.  It may be especially important that there are no threats and no aspects of harm in your relationships or your environment.

You feel secure when someone consistently provides for your needs, is dependable, keeps their promises and doesn't lose their temper with you.

You might like to hear words such as:  "I'm here for you.  We're going to work this out," and, "I'm going to keep my promise to you."